So I have these routine chats with my 1st born about any and everything and one day the topic came up about friendship. She asked me, do I have any friends? Shocked as I was I took a moment and felt the need to give her an answer of validation and as we broke down the answers that I gave I strongly said” I don’t have friends, I have relationships.” I explained to her that my hubby, my children and my mother and Steve are my best friends in that order and that every relationship I maintain is on purpose, intimate (non-sexual) and unique. I enjoyed creating and maintaining relationships but I also know they come with conditions. Every relationship I have there is a mutual give and take. We all require something out of everything, whether it is, time, money, nourishment, love and comfort. In the things I’ve exampled is a litany of definitions they encompass and feel free to list examples at your own request! Now let’s break down friends and best friends knowing the definition by (Merriam-Webster Dictionary) friend-one attached to another by affection or esteem. Best friend-a person’s closest and dearest friend. Adulthood came so quickly for me that I had to make decisions that impacted my family and not just for me, not wanting to compromise them with my personal wants and needs so not to do I created inadvertently these friends and best friend amongst my immediate family hence, hubby’s, children and “parents” (one by proxy). I, now know looking back I needed and expected those very things in return. I could give you STATS and articles about what should be and what is considered “the norm” (my daughter despises my air quotes hehehe) but my truth is growing up with a PLETHORA of friends in and out of my life for various reasons all acceptable this was and is what is best for me. I enjoy my relationships that I have and I enjoy being best friends with my mate and family and also enjoy all of the human experiences I have in my relationships. I hope you can take the time out to evaluate the friends, best friends you have and can 100% trust that those rewarded with that title are worthy of it!
T.
MY FRIENDS
